Preparing for a new baby can seem like a task. But, honestly, once you’ve had more than one you already know what to expect. As I am slowly approaching my due date(two months away) with my fourth & last child I am beginning to remind myself that I need to begin preparing for my baby’s arrival. When I was pregnant with my first child, I realize preparing for a baby requires more than spending money on things they will need. It requires you to be mentally, physically, and emotionally prepared. Transitioning from womanhood into motherhood is a process and most people don’t realize how hard it is for women to experience so many changes mentally & physically within a short time period. Some of us may have been able to handle all the pressure that came from being a mom, but most don’t.
If you are pregnant with your first child, don’t panic. I to was afraid of what kind of mom I would be & worried if my daughter would love me as me. It’s okay to worry, but you don’t have to because motherhood is something we all have to take our time with and learn. As a mom of three I don’t have it altogether, but what I do have is time to get it together. Motherhood is not about perfection, it’s about being able to love another human being as
much as you love yourself. When I was a mom for the first time, I didn’t have any guidance or someone to look to for help & I still don’t. What I did have was an instinct that taught me what to do & what not to do when raising a child. As a new mom, don’t try to do what others have done. Follow your own instincts and stick with what you feel is right. Don’t get me wrong, it’s great to take advice from others, but it’s also important for you to learn as you go. Striving to be like another mom will only make things harder on yourself. I learned a long time ago to do things the way I see fit because we all live different lifestyles & were raised on different values and beliefs. I also want you all to understand everything doesn’t work for everyone. I’ve tried mothering like others & it never worked out. Advice is very important, but doing things your way is what really matters.
If your a veteran mom like myself then you probably have motherhood down the pack, LOL. Seriously we all have room for improvement. Society has set the standards for mothers so high, that if we make one mistake were executed! When I was officially a mom of three I thought for sure I knew what I was walking 8myself into. However, after a few mistakes, mental break downs, losing hope, giving up, starting over, etc. I knew I didn’t prepare myself mentally to be a mom of three. I quickly became overwhelmed and exhausted and all I could do was. This is why it’s important to make sure you are prepared for another child mentally, physically, and emotionally. Having more than one child requires more of your time, sacrifices, and freedom. Most people expect moms to be fully prepared for a baby, but that is just unrealistic because each child is different. All of my children now are completely three different people and I find it a task trying to please all three. All you can do is have patience and know that with time things will get better. You don’t have to have it all together, because sometimes what you expect with a new baby can turn out to be the complete opposite. Be kind to yourself and use each day as a learning experience to get better at being a mom. I am not perfect & I still have areas I need to work on, but I know that change doesn’t happen overnight. Preparing myself for being a mom of four is nerve-racking, but I know that God wouldn’t give me anything I can’t handle.
As mothers, we all have to understand that motherhood is no walk in the park. It definitely requires some adjusting and getting used to it. I still have my days were I am in complete shock because I have three kids. Preparing for my fourth should seem like a breeze, but honestly, I am still all over the place. These last two months will be my time to pull myself together & prepare myself mentally for four children in my face. We will never truly be fully prepared for a new baby, but at.least we can try. The best thing to do is start by acknowledging the areas you want to work on and then create a plan to fix them. My plan to be as prepared for my fourth child as possible is to have more structure and peach in my home. Once I do that I’ll know for sure that I am mentally, physically, & emotionally prepared for his arrival.